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This Month’s Buzz

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” 

What’s on BTBz Mind

What’s on BTBz Mind? Honestly? Not sex.

This week, sex wasn’t even remotely on my mind.

Which is kind of ironic, considering I spent most of the week writing about sex, thinking about sex, planning sex workshops, curating sex products…etc... But when it came to my own personal life? Desire felt really low this week.. And the reason I include this is to share that - it is completely normal.

A healthy sex life includes ebbs and flows. There are days, weeks, even seasons when desire takes a backseat—and that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. It doesn’t mean you’re broken, out of sync, or disconnected from your body. It means you’re human.

Sometimes your mind is elsewhere. Sometimes you’re tired. Sometimes life is loud. And sometimes you’re just not feeling it. So if you’re in a moment where sex isn’t on your mind—whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between—you’re not alone. Your desire will return when it’s ready. And until then, you’re doing just fine.

Our Simple Pleasure

Gut first, glow later...In the theme of less than sexy topics.. I purchased a few turmeric and ginger shots to travel with for the first time in a while, and felt it really cured the stomach discomfort I get when I fly. I then stocked up recipes, and I’m officially experimenting with making my own little morning gut-boosting shots (rather than buying them, because they can be so darn expensive).

It’s easy to think of sexual wellness as just orgasms, positions, or libido hacks—but the truth is, it lives in every part of us. When our digestion is calm, when inflammation is down, when we’re nourishing ourselves with small daily rituals, we feel better. More grounded. More vibrant. More connected to ourselves.

So this week’s reminder: simple pleasures can look like a quick spicy-citrusy shot of gut health!

The Naked Truth: When Sex Positivity Gets Censored

Platforms are still cracking down on sex-ed content, while violence and misinformation run wild. As we’ve mentioned before, we’re currently shadow banned on multiple platforms, meaning our content isn’t showing up in searches or being seen by the people who need it.

We’re not posting explicit material—we’re sharing inclusive, research-backed sex education. And yet, it’s still being silenced. Meanwhile, violent content and misinformation continue to thrive. Why? Because they get clicks, but conversations about pleasure and intimacy? Not so much.

In short, it's worth remembering that sex positivity is still treated as a threat. But we’re not going anywhere - and you can help. If we want a world where pleasure is prioritized, where people feel safe asking questions and unlearning shame, it starts with speaking up. Normalize these conversations. Talk about them at your dinner table, in your group chats, with your students, with your friends. The more we talk about it, the less they can ignore it.

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Play for Your Pleasure

Have you heard about our card game, The Pleasure is Mine? With three categories—Learn, Think, Act—players are guided through lessons, reflection, and practical steps to experience new kinds of pleasure.

We’re sharing a sneak peek from the deck just for you, our newsletter readers. This week’s card is from the Act category: Give your partner a massage. Use as much oil or body balm as feels good — and avoid any intimate areas for at least 15 minutes. (Never

given a sensual massage before? Porn sites can be a great educational resource for tutorials.)

Want more cards like this? Check out the full deck here.

A Quick Recap of Our Last Course: The Science of Pleasure

Instead of focusing on our upcoming workshop this month, we want to take a moment to reflect on our last course, where we had the privilege of speaking at Harvard Sex Week this past Friday. Our session explored The Science of Pleasure.

Here are a few key takeaways we highlighted with our community:

    •    Who We End Up With:  We discussed the science behind our romantic choices, diving into factors like timing, physical appearance, first impressions, and how much body language impacts dating—especially for women. It’s incredible how much control women have over that initial dance in the dating world.

    •    The Pleasure Gap: We couldn’t ignore the glaring disparity in orgasms. While 55% of men report having an orgasm during their first sexual experience, only 4% of women do. We delved into this gap, exploring how deeply it affects sexual satisfaction and the need for more focus on foreplay.

    •    The Power of the Brain in Pleasure: We spent a lot of time discussing how the brain plays a central role in sexual pleasure, and the difference between physical vs. psychogenic stimulation. We also shared tips and tricks that can elevate experiences in the bedroom.

We’re always so grateful for the chance to dive into the science behind sexual well-being, and it’s conversations like these that keep us excited about spreading knowledge and empowering our community.

Unlocking Your Pleasure Potential: Exciting Developments Ahead

One of our favorite pieces of wisdom came from Emily Nagoski, a known expert in the field. She explains that the sexual behavior that most reliably predicts satisfaction in both sex and relationships is: cuddling after sex.

Simple, but powerful.

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